The Story Behind Candle Leadership

There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.

-Edith Wharton

An integral part of my belief system around success is that it must continue to spread; to those you know, and eventually to the rest of the world. I have embraced
Candle Leadership as I am seeking to spread the ideas of success that I have learned and continue to learn. I believe that my level of success will increase when others learn and utilize the ideas that I have developed. This type of mutually beneficial approach towards success is a win-win for both teacher and learner. Sharing is crucial as we grow, therefore I am requesting as you read through my material to share what you learn with at least with one more individual. A memorable quote that I learned from someone near and dear to me: “When you light other candles from your candle, the luminescence doesn’t diminish, you don’t lose any light, rather, you receive light from other candles with less of a shadow and the total luminance is increased.” Leadership is like a candle; leadership is enhanced when we teach our skills to others, much like when light is passed between candles to increase the illumination. It is my personal belief, through my devotion to studying leadership and keen involvement with coaching and teaching, that the way to success is inspiring others – like kindling small fires around everyone similar to a candle. Proactive sharing of knowledge is more rewarding than keeping them to ourselves. This is the same as sharing our thoughts and learning to empower others to become leaders in their own way.

A sign of a good leader is not how many followers you have, but how many leaders you create.



The Fundamentals of Candle Leadership

What is the fundamental teaching of leadership? The definition of leadership can bring about different meanings to us. According to Mother Teresa, who is renowned for her tireless efforts to help the needy, leadership is to focus on others. She reminds us that we should be a great listener and help others grow. According to the Dalai Lama, the most influential Buddhist alive, leadership is all about creating peace through compassion. No matter what the definition of leadership is, by inquiring after its meaning, means that you are inspired to lead and have a clear thirst for self-improvement. If you are going through my video (to be online soon) and reading my blogs, that means you are seeking to do better in your life; it means you are thriving towards success. If you watch my video and research my philosophies surrounding leadership and success, you will be on a path towards learning the ideas that grant success, which will eventually extend throughout your life, career, family, and spirituality.

Candle Leadership is not about how much you know, but how much you can give to others. It is less about your power and much more about how you care. In Candle Leadership, we are not out to find faults in others, but to encourage them. The focus is on putting value into our visions and helping others, even at their lowest, to achieve their highest potential. The emphasis is on the cumulative success of the group. Personal success is increased when people are not concerned with who gets the credit.

Practicing Candle Leadership:

Candle Leadership is designed to remind you that happiness or struggle does not last forever. As we pass through life, we can be over burdened with hardship or sorrow. Candle Leadership can guide you to redefine your thoughts and will inspire you with renewed vision. This leadership can also guide you to manage the inevitable changes in your life and help you to stretch yourself well past your comfort zone into the place you are meant to be.  That is why the Candle Leadership tool has been developed for you to reach your paramount success. Always remember the person that you are – don’t focus on the mistakes you made in the past. Instead, learn from them – concentrate on your goal and commit to excellence rather than being a perfectionist.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.


Use positive affirmation daily. The best way to train your subconscious mind is by using positive self-talk. Self-talk is beneficial in many ways, but it is mostly used to boost our confidence from within.

Here you will find some examples of positive affirmations; the kinds of positive words you might tell yourself in order to reaffirm you that success is achievable. I encourage you to use them daily and you will see the results in your moods and happiness.

When you feel conflicted about a decision:

“I can do it”
“I am following my intuition and my heart keeps me safe and sound”
“I will make the right choices”
“I know the most effective ways to get things done”

When you feel insignificant:

“I have as much to offer the world as the next person”
“I am good at building and maintaining relationships with relatives, friends and clients”
“I am the best leader I know”
“I am part of a great family”
“I am the best person to lead my organization”
“I know how to motivate my group and my people”

When you are afraid to face a problem:

“I am blessed and everything will work out as it should”
“I have a solution for my entire problem”
“I believe in my ability to unlock the way and set myself free”
Using any combination of phrases like these can help you focus on your goal, get rid of negatives thoughts and reprogram your subconscious mind so that you feel more confident. 

To give future participants of Candle Leadership an idea of the kind of philosophies that this practice embraces, read below the following quote from the book As a Man Thinketh by James Allen. This book was published in 1903, but much of what it teaches still resonates with modern audiences and is applicable to our lives.

Allan’s words remind us that it is not intellect or talent that will take us all the way to reaching our goals, but rather motivation and a will to succeed. The power of the human mind is unsurpassable. The benefit of Candle Leadership is that it teaches people how to harness that inner power and eventually see your goals as a reality.

Mind is the Master power that moulds and makes, And Man is Mind, and evermore he takes.

The tool of Thought and, shaping what he wills brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills: —

He thinks in secret, and it comes to pass;

Environment is but his looking glass 

 – James Allen

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